WHY DO WE CHEAT, HAVE AFFAIRS AND BECOME PROMISCUOUS [Lifestyle]

In a relationship, there are times that we are also tempted to cheat on our partners. I am also a convict of such act. I committed the crime that is a taboo when we’re in love. I saw some reason and most of them are justifiable by influence but is it just limited on influence? Are there any other reasons.

Some says that what your friends is also who you are. In this case, maybe is the answer. Some given sign is having friends who also cheat on their partners– sort like a trend on the group (thus the influence stated).

There is also excessive need for attention- one that craves for affection of more than one partner. One might say that one cheat because of sex but this is not always true. Sex is not only the reason. It is the adventure or risk. There the saying goes “Masarap ang bawal.” It is a stunt that cries for an ambitious attention and stress release.

Let’s get down to a proper list. Vanessa Zambali who commented on Dr. Margie Holmes' blog also about cheating gave three distinct reasons.

First, partners are banes to progress. They want someone better, smarter to share feelings with so that they would feel adequate, competent and self-actualized. This means that when we feel that our partner is a hindrance to success, we tend to find someone who would have more opportunity in turning us successful.

Secondly, they cheat because of boredom. The relationship doesn’t glow so they engage in a risky trend to find new glow.

from lifeworkcounselling.net

Lastly, cheating is a proof of timeless beauty or unmatched alpha masculinity. A feeling of being wanted and needed affectionately by others boost internal ego of sex.

Well, I can say that the types are not really important. It is the circumstances which make cheating possible. No matter how educated, sheltered and morally upright, when situations beg for it, cheating may happen. We all have a predisposition to cheat. If circumstances like boredom, unfulfilled desires are present, cheating is present as an option.

Even if there is no sexual engagement but there is emotional or physical involvement supported by the perks of modern world’s technology like text messaging, phone calls, and another person who is also bored, or feeling bane or just like to try some risky business, cheating will be prevalent.

Years ago, cheating was just a form of revenge but today, it is just a form of a trend. Should we be more aware?